How to Get Sorority Letters of Recommendation

Letters of recommendation are an important tool used in sorority recruitment. They give chapters insight into your character, accomplishments, and why you’d be a great fit for their sisterhood. But how do you get letters, or RIFs if you don’t know any alumni personally? Here’s a complete guide for PNMs (potential new members).

1. Build a Strong Foundation with a Résumé

Before asking anyone for a recommendation, create a professional, clear résumé that showcases your:

• Leadership roles and extracurriculars
• Volunteer or community service
• Academic achievements
• Interests or hobbies

Consider this your “one-stop shop” for your recommender. They’ll be able to submit a detailed letter. Much of this letter will be based on your information you provide on your resume. If you want, you can also draft a short “cover letter” or note to personalize your request.

2. Who to Ask

Start with people who know you well and can speak to your strengths:

• Teachers, coaches, mentors, or employers
• Family friends who are alumni
• Alumni from your high school sororities

If you don’t have a personal connection, don’t panic. You can:

• Ask your parents to post on social media, listing the sororities at your school and asking if anyone is an alum willing to help
• Reach out to alumni groups on social media platforms like Facebook or LinkedIn

You’d be surprised how many alumni are excited to support PNMs!

3. How to Ask

A thoughtful request makes all the difference. Follow these steps:

1. Reach out politely and early. Give them at least 2–3 weeks.
2. Provide context. Explain what sorority recruitment is and why you’re asking. A cover letter may help explain.
3. Share your résumé and any relevant forms.
4. Offer to answer questions. Make it convenient for them to support you.

Example: “Hi Ms. Smith, I’m participating in sorority recruitment at [University] and am seeking letters of recommendation. I’d be honored if you could write one for me. I’ve attached my résumé. There’s also a brief summary of what I’m looking for. I’m happy to provide any other information you might need.”

4. Follow Up and Say Thank You

After your letter has been submitted, always send a personalized thank-you note. Alumni are giving their time to help you succeed—acknowledging that effort strengthens your connections and leaves a lasting impression.

You can find matching resumes and cover letter templates and thank you notes on Etsy.

5. Timing is Everything

Plan ahead. Letters of recommendation are usually submitted before recruitment starts, so giving your recommenders ample time is crucial.

Bottom Line:

Getting letters of recommendation takes strategy, preparation, and a little networking. Create a strong résumé and ask the right people. Follow up with gratitude. You’ll give chapters the best insight into your personality, achievements, and why you belong in their sisterhood.

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